Why it’s OKAY for you to have Bad Days!

Recently have you had one of those days where you do not want to get out of bed? The days where the thought of working out or being around people is just ehh! If you’ve had these ‘bad days’ before you know it’s not a great feeling. So to help you out, in this blog post I will be highlighting 10 reasons WHY it’s OKAY for you to have BAD DAYS!

Honestly, I’ve had tons of bad days this year, i’m not sure why but I have. I look a lot like the pug in the picture above on my bad days lol. But, I deal with bad days a little bit differently than you’d think. I still binge Netflix TV shows, eat all my favourite food, and take a lot of naps, but I approach my ‘bad days’ MINDFULLY!

Now you’re probably wondering what I mean when I say “I approach bad days mindfully”, is that even possible? And if it is, how can you do the same?

When you have bad days I want you to keep in mind all 10 of the following reasons. When you do that your mindset will automatically shift to a mindful mindset, and your bad days won’t be just ‘bad days’!

10 Reasons WHY it’s okay for you to have BAD DAYS!

1. You’re Human

Well if you’re not an alien from mars, or if you’re not a robot, I hate to break it to you but you’re human. This means you have emotions, ALL the emotions. Thus, It’s inevitable for you to have bad days.

Having bad days isn’t some higher power cursing you, it’s NORMAL! When you shift your mindset and focus on the fact that you’re HUMAN and that it’s NORMAL to have bad days, your bad day isn’t going to be that bad.

Think about it this way, if you were someone who could pick and choose what emotions you get to feel what would you pick? I’m guessing it’s something along the lines of – love, happiness, success, etc. You’re more likely to pick positive emotions. BUT you wouldn’t know how great positive emotions are if you never felt the negative ones like – stress, anxiety, fear, sadness etc.

So, it’s important for you to have both the positive and the negative to realise that positive emotions are amazing. The same way, if you only ever had good days you’d never really appreciate them as much, but when you have bad days you value the good more!

Thus, it’s not only normal for you to have bad days because you’re human, but it’s also necessary so that you value to the good days more!

2. The Bigger Picture

When you’re in the middle of a horrible day, it’s often impossible for you to think about the bigger picture. But you have to remember it’s always there.

One day of your entire life is just that ‘ONE’ day. So, shift your mindset to remember that there is a bigger picture. Just because you’re having a bad day it doesn’t mean that your entire life is crashing down and that you’ll only have bad days.

There is always a bigger picture, which is why it’s okay for you to have a bad day.

3. Sometimes you have to Ride the Wave

Like I mentioned before sometimes your bad days are necessary, and on those days you just have to ride the wave. Let yourself feel all the emotions and just ride the wave.

But remember, after one wave there is always another, and chances are after one bad wave there will be a few good ones! Or another way to think about it is that, when a wave crashes on a beach it always goes back into the ocean. So yes, you’re having a bad day, but just like a wave, it will go away.

Personally, when I’m having one of these days I will tell my friends and family that I need a day to process my emotions. Then I take the day off and just sit with my emotions. I’m not going to lie, it’s tough but I come out feeling so much stronger.

So it’s okay for you to have these days where you need to ride a wave of sadness, you’ll come out stronger on the other side.

4. Find the strength in your sadness

The fourth reason why it’s okay for you to have bad days is: you get the opportunity to learn how to find strength in your sadness.

Being able to sit with and process negative emotions is a strength, and these bad days are golden opportunities for you to build on this strength.

When you’re having a bad day if you focus on processing all these negative emotions, you’re approaching that day mindfully. When you build on this strength, over time it will become easier for you to process your emotions and your bad days won’t be that bad.

If you want to read more about how to deal with negative emotions read this blog post – How to manage negative thoughts

5. Get ready for GOOD

This is one of my favourite reasons! I believe, it’s okay for you to have bad days because it’s how to universe is preparing your for the GOOD!

I’ve realised that there is usually a pattern that follows after I have a bad day. I have A LOT OF GOOD DAYS! So, now when I’m having a bad day I process my emotions and it’s like I have a clean slate for good things to happen.

I suggest you try this, the next time you have a bad day just process your emotions and think about it as if you’re getting ready for the GOOD!

This is a powerful thought to keep in your mind because it ensures that you don’t get sucked into self-pity, instead you focus on the good that coming next!

6. You Learn how to Support Yourself

Another powerful reason for why it’s okay for you to have bad days is that you learn how to support yourself.

Honestly, no one knows you better than you know yourself ! It’s hard for someone to peek into your mind to know exactly how you’re feeling and how to process it. It’s on YOU to learn how to better support yourself.

So your bad days are actually a learning opportunity! You would know better than anyone else how to take care of yourself on a bad day. Take advantage of this and use this time to learn how to support yourself in the best possible way.

Take this time to learn more about yourself and process you emotions, which brings me to my next point!

7. You understand and process emotions

On bad days its likely that you’re going to experience an avalanche of emotions. If you think about it, bad days are the BEST days for you to understand and process emotions.

I know i’m making it sound like a chore but it’s not**. If you’re keeping all of the above reasons in mind, your brain will automatically start thinking about how to process emotions you’re having. You’d no longer approach your day from a place of uncertainty, you’d know how to tackle it.**

Using your bad days to practice understanding your emotions and triggers is actually also a very effective way to learn more about yourself and grow!

So it’s okay for you to have a bad day, just have an open mind and use it to help you understand and process emotions.

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8. Sometimes you just need REST

There are days where you won’t feel like learning more about yourself or about how to process your emotions on bad days. Sometimes, you just need REST!

A bad day may be a way for your body to signal to you to take a break, and spend a day in bed doing NOTHING AT ALL!

This is your opportunity to take this as a time to recharge. Just ride the wave and REST. Thus, bad days can be a blessing in disguise, they can be the days you give your body a break!

If you’re feeling like your bad day is a signal for you to take a break, please acknowledge it and call a time out! Laze in bed, eat what you want, sleep all you want without any guilt.

9. When required ask for help – people will always support you

If none of the above reasons are helping you tackle your bad days. I highly highly suggest you reach out to someone to help you! It’s important to realise when you’ve done all you can do and you need external help.

I’ve been at this point in my life multiple times, and I’m lucky enough to have my sister’s who I reach out to and they help me through the day.

Remember, there will always be people around you who are looking to support you, all you have to do is ask! If you would like to reach out to me personally you can comment down below or email me at support@myselfcareshelf.com ! I’d be more than happy to help you out.

10. Remember you’re going to be okay

Last but not the least, REMEMBER YOU’RE GOING TO BE OKAY! In the moment, it doesn’t feel like it but keep this thought in your mind and hold on to it!

I’m saying it again you’re going to be okay! You have 10 epic reasons for why it’s okay for you to have bad days use this as a resource to guide yourself to approach these days mindfully.

Sometimes, just one positive thought in your head can turn your day around. Try it. What have you got to loose?

I really hope that this post has helped you tackle your bad days, and if not I hope it helps you at-least understand that it’s OKAY to have bad days.

I want to leave you with one final tip that has helped me personally tackle my bad days – I focus on affirmations.

Also, here’s a link to my GO-TO playlist for bad days – Chill 2020

If you’ve enjoyed this post, sound of in the comments to let me know what you think!

Here’s to the start of your self care journey!

Cheers,

Disha